Valentine’s Day, for most, is the most romantic day of the year. Thanks to Hallmark, we buy the ones we love gifts and send them flowers. The problem, if you are married and sending the flowers and gifts to someone other than your spouse, you may just get caught.
Poynter Online details how , particularly on February 14, cheating spouses get caught:
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution found private detectives who said Valentine’s Day is a big deal for cheating spouses:
Feb. 14, these investigators joke, is their Super Bowl of Surveillance.
“Eighty percent of cheating spouses will try to spend part of the day with the other person,” said Jimmie Mesis, editor of the trade journal PI Magazine.
Ruth Houston — founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and author of “Is He Cheating On You?” — says she normally discourages the use of private investigators, but makes an exception for Valentine’s Day.
“I’ve seen too many people spend hundreds of thousands of dollars, only to come up empty except for a receipt,” Ruth said. “But if someone’s cheating, they are going to make contact on Valentine’s Day, either to give a gift or receive one.”
Jeanene Weiner is the founder of Busted Confidential Investigations, an all-woman outfit in Marietta boasting the grrl-power motto “Where Intuition and Information Meet.”
Her Valentine’s Day will begin early, because she knows from experience that many of the cheaters will schedule a breakfast or lunch-hour tryst.
“This way, they get to go home after work and spend a romantic evening with the person they’re married to, and no one suspects a thing,” she said.
Last year, The Wall Street Journal found:
The Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts, a Southfield, Mich., trade group of professionals trained to review divorce settlements, says filings typically spike in mid-February. “It’s so consistent I can’t deny a pattern,” says Natalie Nelson, a divorce financial analyst in Boulder, Colo.
Indeed, divorce lawyers say they frequently turn up evidence of Valentine’s Day duplicity when they review financial documents. Credit-card receipts from restaurants or purchases at fancy jewelry stores are the most common giveaways, says Heidi Harris, a partner at New York law firm Sheresky Aronson & Mayefsky.
New York attorney Raoul Felder concurs: “The kinds of purchases documented for Feb. 14 give an indication of how serious the relationship is,” he says.
Obviously, the way not to get caught -don’t have an adulterous relationship.